Monday, March 29, 2010


And for those of you saying or thinking - DUH?! It's about time. - I hope people were more supportive of you. We all come out in our own time.

From his website:
A few months ago I decided to write my memoirs, a project I knew was going to bring me closer to an amazing turning point in my life. From the moment I wrote the first phrase I was sure the book was the tool that was going to help me free myself from things I was carrying within me for a long time. Things that were too heavy for me to keep inside. Writing this account of my life, I got very close to my truth. And thisis something worth celebrating.
For many years, there has been only one place where I am in touch with my emotions fearlessly and that's the stage. Being on stage fills my soul in many ways, almost completely. It's my vice. The music, the lights and the roar of the audience are elements that make me feel capable of anything. This rush of adrenaline is incredibly addictive. I don't ever want to stop feeling these emotions. But it is serenity that brings me to where I'm at right now. An amazing emotional place of comprehension, reflection and enlightenment. At this moment I'm feeling the same freedom I usually feel only on stage, without a doubt, I need to share.
Many people told me: "Ricky it's not important", "it's not worth it", "all the years you've worked and everything you've built will collapse", "many people in the world are not ready to accept your truth, your reality, your nature". Because all this advice came from people who I love dearly, I decided to move on with my life not sharing with the world my entire truth. Allowing myself to be seduced by fear and insecurity became a self-fulfilling prophecy of sabotage. Today I take full responsibility for my decisions and my actions.
If someone asked me today, "Ricky, what are you afraid of?" I would answer "the blood that runs through the streets of countries at war...child slavery, terrorism...the cynicism of some people in positions of power, the misinterpretation of faith." But fear of my truth? Not at all! On the contrary, It fills me with strength and courage. This is just what I need especially now that I am the father of two beautiful boys that are so full of light and who with their outlook teach me new things every day. To keep living as I did up until today would be to indirectly diminish the glow that my kids where born with. Enough is enough. This has to change. This was not supposed to happen 5 or 10 years ago, it is supposed to happen now. Today is my day, this is my time, and this is my moment.
These years in silence and reflection made me stronger and reminded me that acceptance has to come from within and that this kind of truth gives me the power to conquer emotions I didn't even know existed.
What will happen from now on? It doesn't matter. I can only focus on what's happening to me in this moment. The word "happiness" takes on a new meaning for me as of today. It has been a very intense process. Every word that I write in this letter is born out of love, acceptance, detachment and real contentment. Writing this is a solid step towards my inner peace and vital part of my evolution.
I am proud to say that I am a fortunate homosexual man. I am very blessed to be who I am.


  1. I'm very happy for him.....and proud of him;) nIm sure he will be more peaceful;)

  2. Good for him. Anyone who comes out helps the cause!

  3. this is for Mr. Jeep guy,
    I've been reading you for a long time, it's just a nice place to be...
    Your comment about "hope everyone was more supportive of you" is really a great two remind me a lot of each other(wink wink)...great guys!
    Be well!

  4. I think we all knew this for a long time and I understand why he couldn't come out until now. I have that same issue at the workplace as well as with friends and family because I know they won't be as supportive if I breach my own version of Don't Ask, Don't Tell.

    Good for Ricky. I wish I could be in his shoes.

  5. Glad he did it. Welcome home, bro.

  6. Thirty years ago I would have agreed with you. Now, not so much.

  7. I'm so delighted and so proud of him. I sighed a little when I saw the news. One more brother has shed his facade and chains.

    It is painful to watch people in the public eye, we are all sure are part of our family, avoid parts of themselves. But, as you point out Sean, our journeys are our own. We have make the decision to be truthful with everyone on our own terms and when we see fit.

    It would be so much easier if we all were out, if we didn't have to live in fear and live lies. I wish we lived in a world where we could all be ourselves, where we could all be free to be who we are without fear of abuse or reprisal, but this world is for from that lofty realm.

    I want us to continue to strive for that and continue to build our collective GLBTQ family, but we must also honor those who can't make that choice yet. They need us to be supportive and they need us to be there for them. Most of us were in the closet once. No one should be judging one of our own in this respect.

  8. Well, we all knew for years that he was a big ol 'mo too, so I don't think too many people in the gay community was surprised. I'm just glad he finally had the courage to come out. Now, if we could just get George Clooney to do it as well...

  9. Uh, it's Martin, not Martian!

  10. Joel Mckay from 'The Soup' says he's not THAT fortuntate, b/c he doesn't get to date Ricky Martin. LOL


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