Friday, March 29, 2013


Mom continues to do fine, me, on the other hand, I checked into the hospital last night (Friday).

I think I mentioned that I had an abscess. It didn't respond to the antibiotics and I had started running a fever Wed. When I spoke to my doctor on Friday (yesterday) she wanted me to go to the ER. They determined that I needed IV antibiotic treatment and that would require checking in. Ugh! There was also the pesky side affect of the antibiotic my doctor had prescribed that seemed to be affecting my kidney function. My kidneys are mostly normal but their function was compromised almost two years ago thanks to a reaction to a new medication. Now I have to be careful when using any kidney based medications or vitamins/supplements.

So here I sit, one floor above my mom, almost directly above her - I'm 481, she 387. I have a private room (SCORE!) and good wifi and cell reception. I haven't spoke to the doctor today so I'm not sure how long I'm in for or if I'll be able to visit mom.

One day at a time.



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Thursday, March 28, 2013



1. Do you scare easily?
I do and I don't. I'm not really scared of anything but I do get 'jumpy' (thanks mom) when tired or really concentrating. I loved to be scared, the adrenaline, the silliness and the excitement. 
2. Do believe in ghosts, spirits, etc?
I know many people, including my nephew, who do and have had regular experiences but I haven't. I think it would be very cool to live in a haunted house and am open to them being real. So while I'm a bit skeptical, I would never disbelieve someone who says they have, make fun of them for being crazy or judge them. I have actually had some very good conversations with people who have.
3. What's the scariest movie you've ever seen?
I it was The Evil Dead and I saw it in the movie theater. I was so scared, more like freaked out, when the girl is about to get raped by the trees that I left the theater. I went back two days later timing my entrance to when I left. The ticket lady told me I would be missing a lot of the movie and when I explained why I wanted to go in late, she let me in for free.
4. Are you scared of things lurking under the bed?
Definitely when I was younger and then again when I was in college and was reading IT, by Stephen King. That was one scary book and my bed sat under a window. Every night I would pull the shade down, something I rarely do and did specifically when reading this book, except one night. As soon as I realized that the shade was still up, I carefully and slowly moved my arm to close the shade. I didn't want to attract Pennywise's (the clown) attention and I deliberately didn't look at window because I knew THAT HE WOULD BE THERE AND I WOULD BE DEAD! To this day I believe that.
5. Do you look in the backseat before you get into your car?
I do. When you have a soft top Jeep or car, you never lock the doors because they can just cut, or with my Wrangler, just unzip them and homeless people like to spend nights in cars. Plus, I've seen that movie at least 100 times.
6. What's the scariest actual/real event you've experienced?
I have aging parents and with my mom's health there have been numerous times when I would look at them and wonder if they were sleeping or if I should get the mirror.
 This story is rather funny and more about my scaring myself. When I first moved to the DC area I was living in Alexandria by myself. I left the apt for about 3 hours in the afternoon. When I got back I noticed the bedroom light was on but I was 99% sure that hadn't left it on. The door was unlocked, it wouldn't have been the first time. One of my bookcase doors was open but my tv and vcr were still there. At this point I was suspecting that my apt had been broken into but could believe it so I started playing a game with myself. In a too loud voice I asked my imaginary friends, BUBBA and CHUCK, if they wanted beers. I continued to talk with them as I looked around but nothing was missing so I relaxed. Then I saw my coin cup was empty and I knew! I ran to the door and locked it but then I remembered how many people are killed in the movies for locking themselves in with the killers. So I fumbled for a minute before I got the door open and my self safely out on the sidewalk. Some things were taken and since my lease was up I changed my mind about staying and moved to a new apt.
7. Do you have nightmares?
I do and I wrote about one last year (I don't have time to find it).
8. Do you have any phobia's such as heights, bugs, dogs or cats, flying, etc?
I don't have any real phobia's but there are things I don't like like bugs and especially electricity. The bug thing I get from my mom, it's my DNA test that proves she's my biological mother, but the electricity thing is just from a number of unpleasant experiences, mostly lightbulbs, but it doesn't keep me for doing what has to be done, I just try to find someone to do it first.


What was your scariest sexual experience?

I think we all can say our 'first time' was pretty scary from going into a bar, to going on a date, to kissing and sex and the big one - the HIV test. But my fun scary experience is also a bit embarrassing. I met a guy online and we hooked up at his place. I knew he had been working long hours and was tired so when he fell asleep, in the middle of things, I just gathered my things and left. When he didn't contact me to apologize and I didn't see him online (and he was always online) and he didn't return my texts or one very nervous vmail, I truly thought he had died. I was about to call the police but decided to run by his apartment one more time. I knocked - no answer, tv still on, no smell. I opened the door. I scared the hell out of him when he saw me. We had a good laugh about it and then finished what we had started 5 day prior.

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Mom is okay right now but that can change at any time and I know this is only going to end one way.

It has been a roller coaster ride since my last update and I really thought that by today I would be telling you that she had passed.

On Friday, I had to explain to her what options she had left and what each of them meant as we prepared to extirpate her. She had been on breathing assistance for 10 days and either had to have tracheostomy (she has never wanted that) or go on mostly oxygen support with limited breathing assistance. We were all prepared to have her pass on Saturday but she did very well.

On Monday, we actually made arrangements to do "End of Life." This I also had to explain to her as our family looked on. The doctors were there and would have done it but I how could I let someone else tell her this?

Monday night she was moved from ICU (after 12 days) to a private room. Today, she is talking, eating, sitting in a chair and only on oxygen. She still needs breathing assistance (using a machine to help inflate her lung) but mostly for sleeping at night and if she tired during the day.

So far she has been in the hospital for 19 days with 10 days in ICU.

As for me and the rest of the family we are taking care of each other have additional family members that are helping us as well as mom. One thing I'm dealing with is another abscess. It started on Sat, I think, and got very big (size of a cue ball) very fast. I went to the emergency room on Monday night and my doctor on Tuesday. I think Alanis could have used this in a song - being in a hospital surrounded by doctors (Mom and I share two) and still having to go to the ER and make appointments. The timing sucks! It's on my back and extremely painful and because I started running a fever (even on antibiotics) I have had time away from Mom and the hospital - which I spent sleeping a lot, and blogging a little.

Ultimately, the family's goal is to get mom well enough to come home to pass. I would rather she pass sooner and at the hospital. She has little time left and it's not the kind of time she ever wanted. However, she continues to fight because it is what she wants and that is all that matters. When she's not resting, she is fully engaged and clear of mind and thought.

Thanks again for being there.

xxoo, Sean, Truvy and Tramp


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Wednesday, March 27, 2013







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